When I walked in the door of the client’s conference room, all eyes were on me. The accounting manager had assembled every member of the team, but I could tell by the looks on their faces that she had also read them the riot act. Uh oh, I thought, how am I going to build trust with these people so that they’ll give me the information I need without making them defensive? I don’t want them to think I’m trampling on their turf.
It was time to put on my therapist hat. As a business process and software consultant, my role is twofold: to be very good at what I do, and to be a therapist for our clients. There’s no rulebook with step-by-step instructions as to “why” this is required; it’s something I’ve picked up, and I know other consultants reading this know exactly what I’m talking about.
You see, by the time a company hires me or any consultant, they are usually in a lot of pain, whether it is figurative—departmental squabbles and process inefficiencies—or literal, such as financial troubles or IRS compliance, for example. To successfully help my clients reach a workable solution, I have to recognize the problem they are facing and the pain it causes them.














