Commitments and Boundaries: Your "YES" and "NO" Should Mean Something!
Many years ago, my life was defined by a distinct pattern of making empty promises and disappointing those around me. Though I paid lip service to being sorry, I NEVER really accepted total responsibility. Therefore, these behaviors continued with the same results. My situation was hopeless … that is until something happened that LITERALLY changed my life and my way of thinking.
My “A-HA!!!” moment occurred as I was reading “Boundaries,” a book on setting and keeping boundaries. Though written from a Christian perspective, the book’s basic concepts are applicable to ANYONE with commitment and follow-through issues in both work and life situations. Ultimately, the book deep dives into why many of us have a hard time saying NO to some people and situations. It also demonstrates, through various role-play scenarios, how we can master turning ourselves around from being wishy-washy to someone whose word is their bond.
I wish I could say that after reading this book, my life changed on a dime. But, alas, it took me time and hard work to implement the principles of protecting my internal and external boundaries so that my “YES” means YES and my “NO” means NO. Even today, I am still a work-in-progress.
Many of you who now know me would probably not recognize the person I was before, but I am truly humbled as to how far I have come. I am thankful that I CAN set appropriate boundaries in my life. And, if I can do it, then you can, too!